Today on Hindsight Hacking we are joined by a true survivor. A person that turned tragedy into a life that is about truly inspiring people. A person that is grateful and lives with forgiveness. Candice Kirkbride the host of Candid Moments and author of Changed By The Rain: Life After A Brain Injury This episode we go deep and have to fight back the tears as the message hits home. You do not want to miss this one. Connect with Candice: https://www.candidmoments.ca/ https://www.facebook.com/candice.kirkbride Connect with Cory and Ron: Head over to Https://profitswithpodcasts.com to find out more about how your can easily launch and monetize a podcast. Or maybe you would like to learn more by jumping on a call with the guys? Just book a time that works for you! https://calendly.com/hindsighthacking/connect?back=1&month=2020-11 And you can find Cory and Ron on a few social channels! https://follow.cool https://www.facebook.com/coryecarter Or you just want to check out their websites: Https://gethhm.com Https://impactorsmastermind.com
Today on Hindsight Hacking we are joined by a true survivor.
A person that turned tragedy into a life that is about truly inspiring people.
A person that is grateful and lives with forgiveness.
Candice Kirkbride the host of Candid Moments and author of Changed By The Rain: Life After A Brain Injury
This episode we go deep and have to fight back the tears as the message hits home.
You do not want to miss this one.
Connect with Candice:
https://www.candidmoments.ca/
https://www.facebook.com/candice.kirkbride
Connect with Cory and Ron:
Head over to Https://profitswithpodcasts.com to find out more about how your can easily launch and monetize a podcast.
Or maybe you would like to learn more by jumping on a call with the guys? Just book a time that works for you!
https://calendly.com/hindsighthacking/connect?back=1&month=2020-11
And you can find Cory and Ron on a few social channels!
https://follow.cool
https://www.facebook.com/coryecarter
Or you just want to check out their websites:
Https://gethhm.com
Https://impactorsmastermind.com
[00:00:00] CORY: Welcome to Hindsight Hacking, I'm cory Carter
[00:00:17] RON: And I'm Ron Cool on this podcast we've packed. Hundreds of entrepreneurs. Hindsight tells you. With better foresight. Now, guys, if you want to know all about what we can do to help you focus on being you head over to get hhm.com, keep pushing through those ups and downs that we all will have.
[00:00:36] CORY: We're still going to have amazing conversations with amazing people. Hindsight hacking boils down to amazing conversations with some amazing people
[00:00:53] Well, what is going on everybody. Welcome back to another episode of Hindsight hacking and today's [00:01:00] special guest coming at you all the way from Ontario, Canada. The one, the only Ms. Candice Kirkbride. Now, Candice, she is the the host of a candid moments podcast. And she's the author of the book. If you're watching the video, you can see right behind me. Changed by the rain. And I can't wait to let her tell the story of this book to everyone listening or everyone watching. And yeah, it's been been 20 years. Right. That's what I read correctly. I'm not going to tease it anymore. Candace. I'm going to, I'm going to let you kind of take it away with any further of the introduction. And first of all, thank you so much for being here today.
[00:01:39] CANDACE: This is such a pleasure Thank you Cory this is nice. I had you on my show. My show now I'm on yours.
[00:01:45] CORY: Yep. That's perfect. Perfect.
[00:01:46] RON: We love doing stuff like that. That way. It's it's we get to know you better and, and I know we've, we've had some really good conversations off air, so however, let's bring everyone up to speed. Why don't you tell everybody a [00:02:00] little bit about you and your background?
[00:02:01] CANDACE: Okay. Well, I'm just a small town girl trying to make a difference. I celebrate and I'm so grateful. Like, okay, like you can't pull up my shirt here, but I have a gratefull tattoo here. I love it. I like I'm so blessed to still be alive. I'm 36 years old. I come from the valley 20 years ago. I was struck by an impaired driver while walking home. And my boyfriend was holding my hand. He passed away that night. I sustained. Multiple injuries, skull fractures, and depressed skull nerve damage to my optic nerves. I don't see from this one. So when I buy a box of six lenses or like whole bunch, I only wear one at a time. So that's a deal. My big thing. That's good. It's like, if you don't think that's funny, I can't help you.
[00:02:48] RON: I was going to say out of you started, it was pretty harsh, but that was funny.
[00:02:53] CANDACE: Oh good, I just have to give it my, like sprinkle my Candace spice on it. But then I thought my [00:03:00] story was really good when I was healing from a brain injury. And it was really guys, it was like the hardest thing I ever thought I would have to do in my life. I never thought I would have to do something like that. But when I was healing from it, I thought it was a good story. And I wanted to share this message with people first, it was impaired driving and being against impaired driving and making smart choices and then I took join Toastmasters and I went along this leadership and communication journey that led me to writing my book and speaking on big stages and helping touch, move and inspire people. Fast forward to 2019, I was hosting and producing a live speaking event here in Sudbury, it was the 13th one in the country called mole Mondays. And it was so great. I was starting to build some momentum in the city. by introducing all these speakers and having this monthly event. And then COVID shut me down after my, my sixth event. So then I [00:04:00] decided to go online and I been, I launched my podcast this year on March 26. Which marked 20 years since I woke up from that coma one a year, since I got to learn and grow and create this Candace, this new person, it there's a lot more details, but that's the Coles notes version of it.
[00:04:21] CORY: It's You know, so inspiring. And I, for someone that, you know, doesn't necessarily have the traumatic experience, doesn't have to retrain themselves to do things, but then they're still depressed or they're still upset with life and they're still hating everything. It blows my mind that we can't be grateful that more of us aren't grateful of the little things. And how do you handle people that are in that, that you're like, you don't even know my story and you're upset about your coffee being made wrong. Like, come on.
[00:04:55] CANDACE: You're right. You know, Cory how I handle it I always try to [00:05:00] change the conversation and I put real effort into it. So when someone is bitching about how their day is and all these negative things, I say, tell me what you're grateful for today. So I just kind of want to switch to, and then they're like, well, not too much. Cause I had sent a bad day. Okay. But what went well in your day, you woke up this morning, right? Okay. Like you have a job, you like, do you drive? I had to go get an oil change or I ran out of gas Oh my God get over it, I don't drive. I take the bus and you know what? I can see the bus stop. So bonus, I don't know. I just like, I don't, I don't always say that I I'm more so say it with like the people I know. Just try thinking about five things you're grateful for today. Just shift your mind. Cause you know what? The universe is a mirror and this isn't from all the books I've read this is what I see and have experienced in my life. The positivity that you put out into the universe comes back to you in a fold. And it's beautiful. If you want to like choose to see the [00:06:00] negative side of it, the universe is a mirror and it will come back to you with some negativity just to kind of keep you a check.
[00:06:07] CORY: Ah, so true. I'm going to steal Ron's question or moment here for a second, because you just, you reminded me of, uh, not, not necessarily reminded, but you made me think of how we do need to be more grateful, right? Like multiple times you've said that. And so I think we should go around the room here. And name one thing that all three of us are grateful for.
[00:06:28] CANDACE: Oh you are amazing, I love it Cory.
[00:06:30] RON: Literally I'm writing down like, like this is not fair. Cause I was going to talk about, and Cory you know, I've been talking about gratefulness, like, like that's been, it's funny. Cause that's been my word, the two words I'm living by right now. grateful Well, three grateful, thankful, and intentional.
[00:06:45] CANDACE: Nice. Oh, that's powerful. And I will tell you it's it's life changing life changing. So, Corey, I love it. I love it. You can go first.
[00:06:55] CORY: Okay. I am grateful. I got to wake up my daughter [00:07:00] this morning before she went to school. She's seven, second grader. A lot of times my wife wakes her up, but you know, some days I wake her up and today I got to wake her up. Part of that process was like snuggling with her for a few minutes as she slowly woke up. And so that is something that helped jumpstart my day in a positive way today?
[00:07:16] RON: Yes. Yes. All right. Candace would you like to go or.
[00:07:20] CANDACE: You can go.
[00:07:21] RON: All right. So I am grateful and this is going to come to no surprise to Cory I'm sure, but I am so grateful for my family and my wife and just how blessed I am to be married to her. And just, I'm very grateful that she's in my life.
[00:07:38] CANDACE: That's beautiful I have a bestie. She is my, my soul sister. My my best friend, my reason for being, I spoke with my mom on the phone this morning, about Thanksgiving with this next weekend, for us Canadians, that woman we're going to get a matching tattoo. That's what [00:08:00] we're planning. And it's going to say soul sisters on it. I love that woman. I like, my god, I'm so grateful for her. It just chokes me up to think that one day we have an expiry date, but I'm grateful for just having her as my best friend.
[00:08:16] CORY: So good. All right. Thank you Candace.
[00:08:18] RON: That's the show, I think we're done, that was pretty powerful
[00:08:23] CANDACE: before I start crying.
[00:08:24] RON: Yeah no, Okay. So it is now my turn to Cory. I believe it is my,
[00:08:29] CORY: it is and don't make Candice cry. Ron don't make her cry. She's crying. We're going to cry. Like,
[00:08:36] RON: it's unbelievable. Like, like you came out with grateful to even start the show like that. That was not planted. That was not something and like, I got choked up just hearing that word, like that word means so much to me right now. It's very interesting how often you start to hear or see or recognize that word. So it goes back to that the universe will [00:09:00] conspire things toward to whatever it is that you're putting out there and I'm putting out gratefulness like so much. And it was funny that you brought that up. We had a church event last night. That was the first word. They started the message on and I'm like, gosh, like it's everywhere. You know? And I think once you start feeling that you attract it
[00:09:19] CANDACE: Yes oh my gosh, I so believe that. And I think another form, you know what gratitude means? that gratitude can only come from love, right? Like if anybody, like whoever's listening to this, I'm sure they can really gratitude comes from here. And whenever people tell me a toucing story, and I go like this, I'm touching myself like my heart because I'm feeling and I'm GRA I'm grateful that they're sharing their story and connecting with me
[00:09:51] CORY: okay, we can, we can move forward here. I promise. All right. Let's tell us your story of going through Toastmasters and getting on that first stage. I'd [00:10:00] love to kind of hear, you know, obviously you knew that you wanted to, to inspire it. You knew that you wanted to at least with the impaired drivers aspect, but, but yeah. Tell us about that, that process to get on that first stage
[00:10:12] CANDACE: That was before it wasn't like a stage I had spoken. you'll have to read the book. It's all in the book. But one of my, my big, like my first big speaking events was at Cecil facer. So that's, uh, like a maximum security, like a detention center for youth. And somebody had hired me. I think it was a social worker who was working there. She hired me to go speak to these students and all my gosh, you could hear a pin drop in that auditorium and it was all about drinking and driving and what this man had done to my friend and me and my life. And like, there were like really young students, like right in the front row. And that was before I joined [00:11:00] Toastmasters, I had done a few speaking engagements, but didn't want to join Toastmasters. I was starting to craft something and it was starting to evolve. Instead of saying, you shouldn't do this, you shouldn't do that. Like, I was very young. Like I was 20 years old. I worked on my presentation skills that brought me to give a workshop and it had to do about with gratitude at a Toastmaster conference. I got a members making a difference award for all the speeches I've done all over my community. I have a speaking journey. It's full. It's like it's over 200. Oh, it's right here. It's huge. This thing is full and there's another one somewhere. But anyway, I go off on tangent a lot, but I've also learned how to kind of bring it back.
[00:11:46] CORY: Perfect. I don't work with somebody that does that at all.
[00:11:50] RON: Not at all whatsoever. I'm always focused, very straightforward. Did you know, yesterday.
[00:11:56] CORY: What's that?
[00:11:57] RON: Nothing. I was just screwing with you. [00:12:00] No one laughs it hurts my feelings.
[00:12:02] CANDACE: I didn't understand it but it was so funny
[00:12:07] RON: thank you. I appreciate it. That's that's called a courtesy laugh for anybody that's listening. If you have not courtesy laugh while you're listening. All right. So. One, like, I I'm still like stuck on this whole gratefulness thing. So I'm going to, I'm going to move forward on that. And so for, for how you're impacting people and you getting out there and connecting, I would love to hear. So, you know, I, I'm sure there's people that come up to here. They're like, this has changed my life. This is what, you know, you've helped me. I would love to hear one of those stories just because it's a good time for it.
[00:12:46] CANDACE: Oh, Ron, that is such a great, powerful question. Oh, I could tell you. SomuchI have goosebumps right now because I have been blessed to be able to share like, Learned how [00:13:00] to communicate properly. And that has helped me to connect with people. I'm this little girl from the valley, who's trying to make a difference. I've been on big stages with. Oh, my gosh, close to a thousand people in the audience and people have come up to me or maybe it was just 15 people at the hospital with a party program. And people come up to me like at a book signing too. But like let's say at the hospital where people have come up to me and said, you know what a family member of mine is going through something very similar. Okay. So this was last fall. I forget her name. It doesn't matter, but there was a lady in town whose little boy, he was 14 years old. He was riding his bicycle, got hit by a car, sustained a brain injury, went back to school on November 30th. I know. Cause I interviewed the principal that day. He's a good friend of mine. And he said that. Lent her my book. And she emailed me and said there were so many [00:14:00] parallels with my story and her son's story. And she said like, you have given my family so much hope. Like there's no way I can. Thank you. But you have given my family so much hope. And I hope that because like, her son is younger than I was when I was injured, the brain is so resilient. You know, she has so much hope for this little boy. Stories like that. Just touch my heart. Oh my gosh. I don't want to give away the, like the highlight of my book. Okay. So sneak peak. It has to do with forgiveness. So Ron, my gratitude, my gratitude comes from the pinnacle of the story, which is the moment I forgave. When I forgave, I became lighter and free and I was like, happy Wednesday. Happy Tuesday I love you? I love you have a great day why do you think I have grateful on like tattooed on my life. Like I became happy instead of that, like, [00:15:00] we're not going to go, like, we're not, we don't live there anymore. We live here and I'm not going to dwell on those angry, resentful, yucky feelings, because that's not what my life looks like. It's sunshine and rainbows in here as I'm happy now. Okay. I did go off tangent.
[00:15:18] RON: No, not at all. Like, because you said the other word, which is forgiveness. So, so no, Cory I'm stealing your, your spot. So, there's nothing you can do about it. Um, no. So you stole mine earlier, so I get to steal yours. So forgiveness, I think that is so powerful because I am a recovering grudge holder and I hold grudges period. Period end of story. Like I do, no, I rephrase that. I did. And I had to forgive some things that were power full for me to actually be able to do that with God's help. I did. And it's unbelievable. The freedom that comes with that at the end of the day, [00:16:00] this is something that I read that kind of opened my eyes. If you're holding a grudge, the only one that's you're hurting is yourself because the person you're holding grudges against doesn't care doesn't care doesn't well could, could probably care less anything about you so why bother holding a grudge? You're just hurting yourself and you're living in that moment.
[00:16:20] CANDACE: Right. And that energy that you're using to hold that grudge is being used in a negative way. You have so much great, powerful, glowing energy that you could be focusing on your list of goals or making a difference in your community or helping someone when you're just being. Angry with a situation or a person. Hmm. Right I feel you, yes.
[00:16:49] RON: I love this interview. This is great
[00:16:50] CANDACE: I love this interview too, thank you.
[00:16:53] CORY: Self self-help for, for everyone right now, self care. All right. So thinking about, you know, the entrepreneurs [00:17:00] that listen to the show and the troubles and trials that they go through. To get on a stage and the work that goes into it. And then, and then the, you know, hopefully walk away feeling like they've had success on that stage. I want to ask you just all the stages that you've talked on, all the places that you've been, obviously you started with touch, move and inspire people as a goal. Right. And so can you like walk us through one of those moments? Being on a stage where you felt like this was the absolute epitome of success. I have inspired and touched so many people and I've, you know, these 20 people came to me and they were just like over the moon or whatever it might, might've been, I'd love to hear. Like, how did you know when you left that stage? That that was your, one of your favorites? And it was so successful because of whatever,
[00:17:50] CANDACE: that's a hard one. Okay June 1st, 2019, I went to go speak up north and Timmins that's even more north than [00:18:00] me, like four hours north from here at a brain injury, 25th anniversary for the brain injury and stroke clinic. I spoke for this group. So the people in the back were like case caseworkers who work with older clients, and then everybody else was support givers. Or, and brain injury survivors. And I gave this one hour presentation that my coach Roger helped me craft. We turned a keynote into a workshop and it was brilliant. It turned out even better than I imagined, because then I opened up the floor and opened up the questions to the floor and I started to ask them, how did you go through all of these? What were your techniques? And then we just started sharing stories.. And at the end of it. Everybody in that room came up to me or the brain injury survivors. They said, my name is so-and-so. This is my injury. This is what happened. And I loved that. You shared your story. Thank you. And then all the co-worker [00:19:00] workers that did not like have an acquired brain injury, they thanked me for like, for them to switch their perspective from being the caseworker. To having more empathy for these people and walking in their shoes. I was like, you know what? You need to read my book, man, because this is like, ah, yeah, I hope this, this moves you. And I'm so blessed that I'm able to do that. Okay. So that was one of them. And then another one was at one of the call. It was a private college. In town. It was more than a decade ago. I think I was dating somebody at the school and one of the teachers asked me. Come and speak to they're just brand new students. It was like a learning strategies class or something. And I gave the speech about, and it had three points and it was a Toastmaster speech and had a beginning flowed. Nice. And there was a, like a good ending and it was so powerful and it. About believing [00:20:00] in yourself, like going to college and chasing your dreams. And I kind of use my story and like, Hey, I'm still learning, but like my experience in business and how I've had to like shift my life. It was just, oh my God, that day I went out of there and I was like, bam, I only wrote down three points. And typically I'm one of those, like, I can't read a speech because like, don't see too well. So you're going to see me look at the page. I was like, I wrote three points and I was like, at toastmaster's experience. I'm going to rock this. I got out of there. And I was like, oh my God. Cause these students were like, wow. You'll really like, you touched me. I like, I'm going to look at things differently now and I'm going to have a great education. And I was like yes! Oh, I love it. I was just, I don't know. I can't hide my passion. It's just, it comes out of me and I just allow it to flow.
[00:20:53] CORY: Love it, it is your turn around.
[00:20:56] RON: Oh my gosh. I'm so confused
[00:20:57] CORY: Just in case we've we've gone [00:21:00] back and forth the wrong way. This time
[00:21:01] RON: I know. I totally thought it was your turn. Oh my goodness.
[00:21:04] CORY: I saw you looking at, I was like,
[00:21:06] RON: no, no, I was, I was writing stuff and I was like, ah, cause we take notes and we share some takeaways and I've got them I love that you've taking something that was, could have like made you stumble and made this like your super power, which is amazing. And I would love to actually hear kind of how you've, how you make. Cause it's a choice. I'm sure. Like here's, here's my superpower and I'm going to go, like, how did that come about?
[00:21:31] CANDACE: Oh, my God, Ron. I have two superpowers. I know it's my communication skills to connecting with people and I'm a weather vane.
[00:21:40] RON: Okay.
[00:21:40] CANDACE: So do you want to get deep? We're going todo that right now. Okay. Let's get deep. I love this. I wish I was recording for my show, but this is great.
[00:21:48] RON: Um, we'll give it to you and you can put it on your show.
[00:21:51] CORY: Yeah you can do a recast.
[00:21:54] CANDACE: We'll see yeah the next one will be about you guys. So a couple of nights ago, I would actually [00:22:00] no last night too okay. So I have more hardware in my face than many of the humans. I know animals too I guess, but whatever. So my bones fused back together with titanium screws, 22 titanium plates. More than 80 screws and a whole bunch of suttered wire. And I remember back in the day, one of the surgeons had said something like, you're going to want to wear a hat during the winter. Okay. If this, I would go back to him and say, you know, why you weren't kidding? You didn't neglect to tell me that I was going to suffer was chronic pain. So last night I was in so much pain, like the pain was like, like, I feel it like four days before it's going to rain or snow and I live in Sunbury, Ontario. So like, it's going to be a cold winter, but you know what? This pain is all about. Guys. I was given this pain to teach me something. I'm still working on the lesson there when I get it, I'm sure it will flow, but I was in a [00:23:00] lot of pain last night and it was before a dance class and I was like, oh my God. Okay. You know what? I still had my dance shoes with me and I went to dance class and I rock it was, I in pain the whole time. Yes, I was did it stop me heck. No, because I don't want that to stop me it's supposed to teach me and other people that you can push through pain. It's going to like, you're going to ache. you will suffer, but you know what? It will be worth it.
[00:23:30] CORY: So good Candace, again, I'm, I'm usually a pretty positive person. And I, I try to don't, I don't stress about things until I need to stress about them and I try not to sweat the small stuff, that kind of mentality. And, but you've, you've really shown that it can be a different level, like so many things can happen to us for, for us. And it's up to us to choose which one, it, you just got me thinking about all this stuff right now, and it's so good. I'm gonna, I wanna shift gears a little bit on, you know, again, the moral point of the show. [00:24:00] We want to get your hindsight to help our listeners foresight. And so with that in hindsight, like when did you truly decide that this was the path that this, that you're going to go and touch and inspire people? Like when was that moment and, and could it have been sooner? Do you wish it was sooner?
[00:24:18] CANDACE: No it happened exactly the way it was supposed to be. If I were to redo my life, it wouldn't be the same. I'm so grateful for when I had those, those, those really big pivotal moment. One of them was when I spoke at the school when I was still a student and one was when I was going through recovery and I was in the hospital, I had a seatbelt on, in the wheelchair and I was like, okay, like, can you can you undo the seatbelt? Because like, I need to get up. And I walk, but I had a stroke that it affected the side. So I couldn't lift my left arm. To get out of the wheelchair, but I was like, no, listen, I'm going back to school and I'm going to live a happy, successful life. I [00:25:00] graduated from college, you know, I'm, I'm successful in my own, right. I'm not a millionaire, but like, I'm just doing things my way. And I like it. Thank you, Frank Sinatra, after surviving a stroke, I am a Latin and ballroom dancer now, so that can teach anybody that they can do any thing. I'm telling you, like, I don't see you. If you're walking on this side of me, unless you're holding my hand and I could feel you there. I can still see you, but just not, there's no peripheral, but you better walk on this side because like the peripherals not there, but like I see from the side, you know what? It's all good. We both have our struggles. We can't compare them. We have been given struggles to teach. So, what is your lesson? What are you meant to learn from this?
[00:25:53] RON: Oh my gosh, this is, this is crazy. So it's funny because you talk about trials and [00:26:00] all of those things in your life and you're taught, or the Bible teaches you to be grateful for trials. And I don't like feedback. You can ask Cory I don't like feedback. Every boss I've ever had that tells me I should work on feedback. My wife's like, you should probably just take the feedback and I'm like, I hate feedback. Like, I don't like anything negative, like coming at me at all. And what I've learned is you have to be grateful that you've been able to be shown something that you can then turn it around to fix whatever it is, and be able to help somebody else that's possibly going through the same thing.
[00:26:36] CANDACE: Constructive feedback you are Preaching to the choir. Ron, you should join Toastmasters. You'll learn how to accept constructive feedback.
[00:26:45] RON: I think I'm doing okay right now.
[00:26:47] CANDACE: But you are, You're doing great right now.
[00:26:52] CORY: alright Candace. My, my last question for you today first of all, thank you for hanging out with us, giving us a moments, making Ron cry. And it's always [00:27:00] fun to do that. So, but, but what's, you know, there's so many less, what is the lesson, right? Like that's kinda the last thing you just said, but if you were talking to somebody and you saw them in the dumps and you, or you saw that they were going through something major, like you had to, or somewhere in between, if, if, if they were just like, what's the one thing I can do. To make my life better. What's that? What's that little bit of advice you can give them.
[00:27:24] What can
[00:27:24] CANDACE: you give back, how can you relate? How can you help other people? You're going through something really hard right now. And guess what? It's not going to be your last time going through something hard, but think of something where you can give back, like you can help so many people through your story. We're all going through something like we experience life differently. But we all bleed red and this too shall pass.
[00:27:54] RON: That's it.
[00:27:56] CORY: Mic drop.
[00:27:56] RON: That is crazy. No, and there's there. This is, [00:28:00] this has gotta be one of my favorite favorite shows. So
[00:28:03] CANDACE: Ron, thank you.
[00:28:04] RON: I Listen to this show. What is your problem? Like if you haven't watched it live and you want to see someone cry, like Corey, like go watchit live
[00:28:11] CANDACE: people connecting with each other right.
[00:28:14] RON: Again, I don't believe in coincidences. Corey knows my story about coincidences I feel everything happens for a reason. And I think so, let's tell the story you were supposed to be on. What was it last week? And we had some technical difficulties. However, during that weeke and today, so much more has changed around the gratefulness and the forgiveness piece that was different than last week that it needed to be this week.
[00:28:38] CANDACE: Yeah. Maybe I wasn't in the right frame of mind last week to tell the story.
[00:28:43] CORY: Maybe Ron, might've not have been in the right frame of mind to hear it. So
[00:28:47] RON: exactly. So that's the difference right there. So super grateful that you came on the show today. Yeah, super grateful. I know that people are like, holy smokes. I need to get involved with this with Candice. [00:29:00] How did they find you? Where do they connect? How do they get involved in?
[00:29:03] CANDACE: Oh, okay. Candid moments.ca is my podcast.
[00:29:08] CORY: Candid moments.com or dot CA
[00:29:10] CANDACE: Dot CA cause it's Canadian. I'm on Facebook. Candace Kirk, Candace, Christine Kirkbride, and my podcast. Page candid moments, moments.ca and my email candid canvas k@gmail.com. If you want to be highlighted on my show and have a fun conversation with me, then hit me up.
[00:29:30] CORY: Awesome, Candice, thank you so much, Ron. I think it's your turn to go on candid moments and have another conversation with Candice there.
[00:29:38] RON: It would be crazy. So it'd be a cry Fest so let's do it.
[00:29:44] CORY: All right. Thanks so much, Candice. We'll talk to you soon.
[00:29:50] All right, Ron, the Kleenex is out that the tears have been wiped.
[00:29:56] RON: Yes.
[00:29:56] CORY: What are the takeaways that, that we, or you [00:30:00] got from Ms. Candice and yeah, you gotta, you gotta connect with her and get on her show because I had a lot of fun being there. It's a great show. Very well with her interview. So I think it'd be good for you guys to do that as well.
[00:30:12] RON: Yeah, now, absolutely. Okay. So I'm going to go big picture and then kind of go down. Okay. And this is, this is, this is pretty powerful. So follow me for a second choices and decisions, choices, and decisions. You're one decision away from changing your life, good or bad. One decision. You can destroy your life in one decision, you can save your life in one decision, it's a decision that you control as a choice that you control period. Right? So now let's go, let's go passed that gratefulness and forgiveness. Very powerful, very powerful. Like in order to be grateful, you have to be, you have to have love. Right. And we talked about that on the show. Gratefulness is powerful if you live in gratefulness. So I, instead of [00:31:00] my, my second takeaway, I have a to do for the listeners the to-do is give me a week, one week. And I've been doing this for two months now. I mean, one week living gratefulness and thankfulness say what you're grateful for every single day. And if it's a person, you tell that person every single day, multiple times a day for one week, and then DM me, I'll put my link in the show notes. DM me What's changed. And I will tell you, what's going to change is you won't be there. The person.
[00:31:31] CORY: Yeah. That's I like that to do. I think, you know, we could, we could probably do a follow-up episode and kind of discuss, you know, these takeaways more and, and anybody that DMS you and discuss kind of what they got from it. And this is good. It's really good. But my favorite piece is the, the last question I had. And when I, you know, if somebody down in the dumps and it's either for something small or trivial all the way to something that's horrific and they have to [00:32:00] fight for every breath or step they take. But and Candices advice was can you give back? Right? Like there's someone else that may need it. And so if we, even when we're down in. And the dumps, even when we're depressed, even when you know, something is not going right. Can we give back to someone else and that'll change the perspective, right? Like, oh, let's just say, for example, I don't have enough money to pay for something that I want. Right. Why don't I go give $10 to somebody that can't afford to have a lunch? You know what I mean? Like if money is the situation, if, oh, I don't have enough love, you know, coming at me. Well, why don't I go show it to somebody else? And guess what, like the mirror that again, Candice talked about the mirror in the world, right? Like it'll come right back to you. Yeah. So can you give back, even in your worst moment, that was my take. And my number one that I got from, from this show. And, but there's so many more, there were so many more, so anybody out there, if you didn't hear already headed to [00:33:00] candid moments that CA and that is the website all about Candice's podcasts, candid moments, and otherwise don't forget. Take a week thankfulness every day. DM, Ron, what your experiences with it? That'd be a lot of fun to see, see the results.
[00:33:18] RON: Absolutely. It's life-changing all right.
[00:33:20] CORY: Thanks guys talk to you soon.
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